whatever you find if you want something modern, stylish, and nice. Otherwise, it’s like living in a cave, stepping bac
I don't know what you have been looking at in Campione & in Italy. I live in an ultra-modern 2 bathroom, waterfront super-view in Campione with convenient parking right below my apartment. If I want big city lights, I get in the car and in a few minutes I am in Como or Milan. There are plenty of modern, light, super-view apartments & villas available there in every price range. For billionaires, there are also a few new ultra-modern architecture homes on the hill in the Million plus range. Just google for "apartments & villas for sale, Campione d'Italia." If you are broke, there are (IMO) nice 200+-year-old charming historic buildings with gardens in the old town as cheap as $100,000. You could buy something nicer with modern architecture, like mine for around E300,000. IMO there are no better designers than Italians for houses, furniture, interior & exterior décor, gardens, cars, etc. My Campi place is as comfy, light & convenient as anything I have seen in 45 years of looking at places in all of Europe. A few years ago, you couldn't get a place in Campi for love or money, but when the Casino folded (briefly) a lot of stuff came available at distressed prices. The bargain remnants of that fallout are still on the market. Campi is quiet, safe, and very scenic.
It is a matter of personal taste where you end up, I rate Campi at a 5 star destination. The only better place in the world to live IMO might be Newport Beach, California.
One of the big advantages of a "small community" like Campi is ZERO crime for around the last 75 years. There is only one road in and out. Safety is important to me. The Campione micro-climate is quite unusual. It is in the tiny "banana belt" of Switzerland. Schooling for kids, Medical & even dental care is free if you know how to go about getting it. You can get along very well there (in daily life) speaking only Italian, English, Russian or German.
As to everybody knowing your business, I doubt that even two people in the whole town know I exist.
Finally, like you, I am a "do it yourself guy" when it comes to almost anything, but when I needed stuff (from a distance) in Paraguay, Argentina, & Guatemala I hired local experts to do the job.
Italy is special. If you can handle Italian bureaucrats, good for you. Their favorite words are "No, No. No! Imposeeebilai" I have funny stories of how I won them over. Enough of my ranting for today.